- greet him when he gets home from work with a smile and not a frown or tired face
- pick a book on marriage to read over the next 3-4 weeks
- think before I speak
- think before I speak (so important it needs to be on there twice!) :-)
- work at doing a good job with our budget and what I have to work with for groceries and other needs (more about this later)
We had our ups and downs last week starting with a long, not-fun-type discussion on Monday night about various and sundry things. However, overall (and greatly due to our discussion) I have done much better about thinking before saying something that will hurt my husband. Of course, this is always something that I can continue to do better on ... actually, it would serve me well to practice this with everyone. Thinking before speaking - a good thing.
I've decided that I'm going to reread Created to be His Helpmeet over the next several weeks (and beyond the challenge if necessary). I know this is a controversial book, but it was a huge help for me, so no flames, please. :-) I'm also going to do a word study on "contentment" in my Bible. I have always, always struggled with jealousy and discontent to some extent in my life. Not that I don't wish good things for other people (I can rejoice with best friend who just moved into a beautiful HUGE big house), but I struggle with coming back home to our tiny 2-bedroom where we are trying to fit five folks and all our gear. Something I just realized recently, though, is this discontent and jealous is so not good for my marriage. It's basically telling my husband that he's not providing enough for me and that I'm dissatisfied with what he has worked so hard to provide us with. When I have a laundry list of things that we "need" what else would that say to him, but that he is not doing enough. I need to work and pray on contentment issues big time. (I hope this is making sense here!)
This week's goals are:
- to continue to think before I speak.
- something practical ... remember to fill the coffee pot and set the timer EVERY NIGHT for a week so that I'm not doing it in the morning and there is hot coffee ready for Travis to take to work.
- have a good attitude this week as I have a lot of evening kid duty by myself this week. Travis and our oldest are doing VBS this week, and so I'll have the two littles all by myself every evening and then a hyper/exhausted/filthy 3.5 year old to wind down when they get home.
- read my CtbHH book and study verses on contentment.
Head over to Christine's to join in or to be encouraged with other's pursuit of this worthy goal.